Advice please. Ex partner returned our 4 children 2 years ago and then stopped contact, he was having 50/50 he took me to court, said I stopped contact (completely untrue), then tells the judge he only wants 1 day contact a month, he's since remarried and moved over 30 miles away, the final hearing he decided to withdraw completely. So what now? I have reached out so many times in those 2 years only to be ignored, our oldest 3 get blocked by him on all platforms, our youngest is autistic and I am struggling, I've asked for help and been told by his new wife (she's never met our children) to F off and grow up and just deal with it
Here is my research of your issue: a mother of four abandoned by her ex-partner who withdrew from court, seeking help and professionals to support her and her autistic child. Here is the answer to the best of my knowledge:
You have far more power here than his silence suggests. In England, a non‑resident parent has a legal duty to contribute financially, and his withdrawal from court does not erase that obligation. You can take these steps immediately:
1. **Contact the Child Maintenance Service (CMS)** on **0800 171 2345** to start a claim for financial support.
2. **Gingerbread – Single Parent Helpline (0808 802 0925)** offers expert advice on child maintenance, benefits, legal rights, and emotional support.
3. You may be eligible for **Carer’s Allowance**, **DLA/PIP** for your autistic child, **Universal Credit**, and **Council Tax Reduction**. Use the entitledto calculator to check your benefits.
4. For emotional support, call **Family Lives (0808 800 2222)** or ask your GP for NHS talking therapies.
The fact that he has a new family does not release him from his responsibility. Talk to Gingerbread or Citizens Advice to understand your legal rights and next steps.
**Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer. This does not constitute legal advice but rather a personal opinion based on general information. Laws vary by jurisdiction, and you should consult with a qualified attorney for advice on your specific situation.**
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